I have always loved love, if you’re a girl you may understand. Growing up music was my favorite thing, especially love songs. Country girls do you remember this one?
I would listen to songs like this in my bedroom and just daydream about finding the love of my life. I dreamed I would get married young and love would be perfect, just like Jack and Rose in Titanic! There was no planning, no thinking about what it means to be a Godly woman and wife with no thought of how to have a God honoring romance and marriage.
I also grew up in church and was taught the importance of getting married. I was told not to have sex before marriage and that certainly meant no spending the night with a boyfriend or living with them before marriage. I wasn’t really explained why God wanted this, it was just what the bible said. So of course when I hit high school temptation was everywhere. Let the crushes begin….
Every short romance was like a Taylor Swift music video. I had boyfriends that would last for two months, one month or just weeks. All the girls were kissing and had boyfriends, so I thought it’s normal and surely I would have no problem finding a husband one day. I liked this attention from boys and thought they would respect my Christian standard to not have sex before marriage. I had Christian friends that also believed in this, but thought it was ok to do everything with their boyfriend but have sex. So it became a game of seeing how far you could go without actually breaking the rule.
In college I met a guy and finally gave in. I was not proud, but was told by culture and everyone around me it was ok. Especially because it’s your boyfriend and it’s not like you’re sleeping around. I was even told by a Christian friend that it was ok because girls in bible times got married when they were teenagers and girls today have to wait longer to get married because they go to college first. Oh the lies Satan tried to convince us all.
In the book: Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart by Kristen Clark & Bethany Beal of Girl Defined, they tell of when it all went wrong for Eve in the garden with Satan in the book of Genesis. Satan, the serpent, chose to target her with a deceptive question in chapter 3 verse 1, “Did God actually say, ‘you shall not eat of any tree in the garden’?” You can continue reading this story in Genesis, but when we think about about how Eve was led to question what God said, the same goes for us Christian women about sex today. We can question what God said: Did God really say I should reserve sex for marriage? If I really love someone, why does it matter? As long as I don’t go all the way, I’m not technically breaking the rules. Did God actually say not to crush or lust over men? Did He actually say not to read erotica? Did He actually say not to look at porn or mastrubate?
I wish I would have been aware of the lies from Satan and culture I was letting myself believe. I even began to believe that marriage was not necessary and forget all God wanted for my marriage and love life. It wasn’t until I got rid of the ungodly men in my life and discovered Girl Defined on YouTube that I regained hold of all the blessings God has for me when I follow his grand design for love, sex and marriage. I even almost missed out on the man of my dreams God had waiting for me, because I was too stuck on thinking romance should be just like a song or movie. I have learned love is not just about feelings, it is a God honor commitment. I still have my share of temptations, but with the help of Girl Defined I am working to keep my eyes on God and have a marriage that honors Him for life.
In this book you will learn you are not alone. Many Christian women are having sexual struggles in private because they are too ashamed to talk about them, thinking they are the only ones dealing with it. You will learn God created us to be sexual and long for intimacy. Kristen and Bethany will open up about their struggles, give you scripture to learn God’s grand design for our sexuality. Reveal the lies and myths we have believed about sex and purity. They will give you practical methods on how to combat temptation. They will answer hush hush questions. Best of all you will learn how to receive sexual freedom that lasts despite your sins or sins against you. Even if you never have sex or a romantic relationship on earth, we can have full satisfaction in God and have an intimate relationship with Him. He is our creator, redeemer and Savior.
Get your copy of Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart now! If you want to learn more from the authors first, go to girldefined.com where they tell about their books and have free blog posts about everything the modern Christian woman needs. You can also watch this video series on the book on their YouTube page. There you will also find videos you’ll want to binge watch! I’m so thankful God allowed me to find these girls and I can’t wait to attend their conference in San Antonio this August where I can connect with them and hundreds of other girls all striving to live a life for God in all they do!
Happily Ever After won’t be easy, but it will be worth it living for our Father above…